Don’t listen to the haters who want you to believe that sex is only good when it’s spontaneous and that scheduling sex isn’t sexy. While scheduling itself isn’t necessarily sexy, sex is, which is the whole point of scheduling it. If you have a lot going on in your life or you find it easier to lay on the couch when you’re tired, scheduling sex can bring you closer to the sex life you want. Here are some additional benefits, beyond the sex itself:
1. You can plan what you eat
This is for the garlic eaters, lactose intolerant cheese lovers, and legume fanatics out there. We’re not the ones to tell people what not to eat, but if you prefer to avoid bad breath and/or violent incidents during sex, this is something to consider.
2. You can make sure your toys are charged
This is probably the best reason to schedule sex. Is having sex without your favorite wireless toy even sex? (Yes, it is, but probably not as good.)
3. You can get yourself in the mood
One good thing about scheduling sex is that you can get yourself in the mood ahead of time. Play some music, give yourself a leg up, whatever works for you.
4. Both of you take a shower
Spontaneous sex can be hot for many reasons, but sometimes you’d rather not smell like you just got home from the gym.
5. You can make a plan to eliminate distractions
Distractions can include your kids, your phones, a messy house, a very curious cat–really any number of things. Scheduling sex allows you to get rid of all that so you can focus on what’s really important.
6. You can build up to it
When you know exactly when it will happen, you can start your foreplay day in advance. Every day brings a new opportunity to send your partner a warm text telling them how much you love them and can’t wait for your “appointment.”
7. You can give it the time it deserves
Quickies have a time and place, but sometimes you just want to keep going until you can’t go any further. The beauty of scheduling sex is that you can block out as much time as you want (or as much time as your cat will give you).
