Trying something new in the bedroom can open up a whole new world of possibilities for fun and enjoyment. But getting there can be a bit difficult at times. Even the most confident and adventurous among us can find ourselves a bit tongue-tied when it comes to sex. We’re here to guide you through a great way to spice up your sexy time with your partner–going to a sex shop together–from starting the conversation to enjoying your purchases.
1. Raise it
Whether you want to bring it up to them in person or gently start the convo via text, broaching the subject of trying something new doesn’t have to be scary. Even if toys, underwear, or games are already part of your play, shopping for them together can be a new experience. You can frame the suggestion as a fantasy during a sexting session or as a cheeky date idea during your weekend planning routine. Plus, sometimes, talking about it can be just as fun as doing it!
2. Explore your options online
Start the journey by finding what shops are in your area and taking a virtual drive-by on Google Street View to see what places have the vibe you’re looking for. Your options range from large chains with multiple locations like Lion’s Den to small local shops, which can offer a more personalized experience.
Next, think about whether you already know what you want. Sex shops carry everything from lingerie to vibrators to sexy adult card games. To get comfortable before you venture into the store, you and your partner can look at the store’s offerings online to get ideas started and get an idea of prices.
3. Make a day of it
Consider making your shopping trip a date instead of a mandate. Instead of heading straight to the store and rushing home, book your trip with other activities to enjoy a full day of fun. Our suggestions include: lunch, drinks, cat cafes, farmers markets, and long walks holding hands.
4. Explore the store together
When you arrive at the store, go around looking at the inventory together. Then move slowly through each section and consider options—including options you may not have considered in the past. Check in with your partner as you navigate the store and ask about anything that seems to be taking them too long. Don’t be afraid to ask for recommendations/explainers from the staff along the way, they’re also there to help you get the most out of your experience!
5. Exchange gifts
In addition to getting anything you both agree on, it can be fun to set a price limit and pick out a surprise item for each other. Finding new ways to turn each other on can be very familiar and bring you closer. But if there’s anything you definitely don’t like, be sure to let your partner know.
6. Enjoy your haul
Time to head to the bedroom (or wherever you want to take it!). Before you start, make sure you have a conversation about boundaries and expectations, especially if you’re going to try something new. Whether you’re talking to a new partner or someone you’ve been with for a while, establishing and checking in about those perimeters is important.
Equipped with your new stash of pleasure enhancers, the next session is sure to be one you’ll remember for a long time.
