I feel emotionally drawn to helping someone have a baby, but I don’t qualify to become a surrogate. What other ways can I help someone become parents?

Want to be a surrogate but don’t qualify?

If you have a helping spirit and love pregnancy, you may be drawn to wanting to help someone have the family they want. While that feels like a wonderful and selfless thing to do, being a gestational surrogate has qualifications that not every individual can meet. A prospective surrogate generally needs to be between the ages of 21 and 42, have carried at least one successful pregnancy to term, raise their own child in their home, be financially stable, and also have a support system. like a supportive partner.

I still don’t meet the requirements; can i still be a gestational carrier for intended parents compromise?

that depends. Surrogacy requirements exist for a reason and it is very important. These requirements are not generally set by the agency, these requirements are set from recommendations from doctors and surrogacy experts in the field of assisted reproduction. The requirements are set to help reduce the risks and increase the likelihood of a successful surrogacy journey and these requirements are necessary to protect the pregnant woman and the intended parents.

Of course, a surrogacy agency will appreciate and understand your desire to be a surrogate, unfortunately this will not change the fact that you are not qualified for a surrogacy journey, if you are deemed ineligible based on the basic requirement. There are several surrogacy requirements that a surrogacy professional can review based on personal circumstances. The best way to find out if you may be eligible to be a surrogate is to speak with a professional at the agency, who can review your information and qualifications with you.

Can I avoid an agency and become a surrogate?

If you’ve applied to an agency and you haven’t met the requirements through the agency, there’s more than likely a good reason why you’ve been deemed ineligible. You can overlook this and decide to completely avoid the agency and choose an independent surrogacy path, but that does not mean that you will be able to have a successful journey.

If you find intended parents willing to work with you despite your circumstances, you still need to get clearance from the fertility clinic the intended parents use or find a fertility clinic to work with you that also has required. The medical clinic you choose needs to be vetted to make sure you meet their qualifications.

Even if you make it past the clinic screening process, making an independent surrogacy journey can be really difficult. Without the help of a surrogacy agency, you and the intended parents will have to coordinate everything for legal and medical services. Having the help of a surrogacy agency for surrogacy planning, case management, counseling, support, and coordination helps a surrogacy journey. A professional surrogacy part of this process is a benefit and attempting to do so without the involvement of a professional agency can be a risk for all involved.

Change your circumstances that prevent you from becoming a gestational carrier

If you do not qualify because you are not currently financially stable, you can work towards the goal of financial stability to achieve the ability to qualify as a gestational carrier. Having this desire to help can fuel your ability to make changes in your life to become more financially stable. If you don’t qualify based on your BMI, knowing that you can’t complete a trip based on your weight can fuel your desire to lose weight to help achieve the ability to become a gestational carrier. Create a vision board and use that visualization tool to meet your goals to achieve your desire to be a successor. You can also create a personal vision statement to help you present your goals and vision.

If you do this and you still don’t qualify, how can you help?

You can consider other ways to help expectant parents reach their goals by becoming an egg donor, uterus donor, or by bringing your professional skills to the assisted reproductive industry!

Eligibility requirements are different for egg donors, so even if you don’t qualify to be a gestational carrier, it doesn’t mean you can’t qualify to help through egg donation. Another way you can help expectant parents is by donating your uterus. It is possible to donate your uterus, but there are requirements as with gestational surrogacy and egg donation. Finally, if you have professional skills that can be applied to the assisted reproductive industry in any way this is your way of helping if you don’t qualify to be a gestational surrogate.

To get more information on whether you are eligible to be a gestational carrier, please contact and speak with a surrogacy professional today.