Why do you want to be a surrogate? This is one of the first questions we ask our gestational carriers during the application process. Often they will mention a family member or friend who has experienced infertility. Other times, as mothers themselves, they can’t imagine what it would be like to be childless, and they want to give that gift to someone else.
One of the biggest misconceptions we often hear about surrogacy is that it is treated as a business transaction and surrogates are only doing it for money. We understand how this can be a concern for intended parents who value a connection with their carrier and have a desire to share in the pregnancy experience. We recently asked some of our gestational carriers to share the best parts of their experience and their motivation in helping intended parents grow their families. Here’s what they had to say.
“Everything about this journey has been amazing – even the annoying parts have made so much sense that I can’t find anything negative to say! I’m so looking forward to feeling this sweet baby move around. I really can’t wait to see my intended parents with their baby in their arms. They’re going to be wonderful, loving parents, and they deserve it! I’m thinking about doing it again!”
Laura, first time alternate
“It was the most amazing experience ever. I want to bless a family with a baby. Little did I know, I would also have a great blessing. My heart was so happy when I helped create a family. It was completely life-changing for me.”
Mandy, first-time surrogate
“My mother struggled with infertility with my stepdad when I was a teenager, and I remember hearing him cry at night. My daughter was born almost 10 years after that, and I wanted to be pregnant and give birth. I knew that’s what I did to make a difference, to take away the pain of others.”
Courtney, three-time alternate
“We thought this would be a great way for us to give back to another family. My husband and I conceived with the help of two amazing donors. We wouldn’t have children if it weren’t for their help, so we want to help other families.”
Niki, first-time surrogate
“I really love my parents, and they have become part of our family. The best thing about being a surrogate is the feeling in the room when parents get to hold a baby they’ve been waiting to hold. It was an indescribable feeling. Ashley, three-time surrogate
“I have many friends who suffer from infertility and one, really close to me, who lost a child due to a genetic condition they didn’t know she had. I am someone who likes to help people and knowing that I have the ability to carry babies, I looked into surrogacy. It’s so beautiful.”
Anna, first time surrogate
“I have always enjoyed being pregnant and helping others. What better way to bless others?”
Jessica, five-time surrogate
“I decided to become a surrogate because I know many women who are struggling with infertility. My heart goes out to them because it was easy for me to get pregnant and being a mother is the most fulfilling part of my life.”
Gloria, three times successor
“I was drawn to surrogacy after my husband and I went through infertility. I know I want to help other people who are going through the same thing. It was the best experience ever!”
Meg, twice surrogate
“I was very happy when I was matched with my desired parents. I can’t wait to match again and form such a special bond. The best thing about being a surrogate is giving the parents their baby. My heart is full!”
Leanna, first time alternate
“I love being pregnant, and I love helping people. My surrogate best friend told me if I were to consider it, she would recommend it. that’s all [I became a surrogate] first time. My second chance was because the first was a wonderful example of a servant’s heart for my family, and I could help someone.”
Rebecca, twice surrogate
“The best part was the moment of euphoria after the delivery. All the aches and pains – all those moments were worth it. My longed-for father is Chinese and when he called his family after the baby arrived, I obviously couldn’t understand the words words, but I hear the love, from her partner (who was not able to travel for the birth), from her parents. and her sister. I swore I was one and done until that moment. I know it caused I was so much joy in a family…all the relationships that just changed in the best ways…after the hormones settled down, I knew I just had to try one more time to recreate that.”
Chrissi, first time surrogate
At Surrogate Solutions, our mission is to help create happy families by matching intended parents with compatible gestational carriers. Please visit www.surrogatesolutions.net for more information. If you have questions, please contact us directly through our website here. We want to talk to you!
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