The new year is right around the corner, so you know what that means…vision board parties, long-term goal setting, and resolutions tailored specifically to 2024. You may already be thinking about reading a certain number of books every month, going to the gym regularly, or aiming for a promotion at your job—all of which are probably very reasonable and good ideas. But there are also many resolutions you can put on your list that will help you improve your sex life, regardless of whether you are single or have been with your partner for years.
So set a goal to learn some new tricks, act out your wildest fantasy, or express yourself sexually in a new way. Start your year off right with 6 sexy New Year’s resolution ideas for 2024:
1. Create a sexual inventory checklist, also known as a “yes, no, maybe” list.
Want an idea of your partner’s range of interests in the bedroom (or maybe outside of it!), but need help starting the conversation? Start with a “yes, no, maybe” list to identify and share your levels of desire to try specific sexual activities!
Fold a sheet of paper into three sections and then label each column “yes,” “no,” and “maybe.” The “yes” column means, “Yes, I like it or I want to try it,” the “no” column means, “No, it’s not for me/I’m not open to it) ,” and the “ maybe” column means, “Maybe I might be interested in more conversation, information, and/or a particular situation.”
There are many examples online that you can use to brainstorm ideas of sexual activities to put on your list. Make one for yourself and one for your partner. Each of you will categorize each activity, and then you’ll compare your lists to see what new things you want to try.
2. Explore a kink
The world of kink is vast. Even the term “kink” covers a huge variety of things. Maybe you already know there’s something scary you want to do, or maybe you have a general idea of what you want but need help brainstorming. definitely kinky things to try. Either way, 2024 could be the year you find out that thing it feels as good as you think.
3. Be creative with role play
Role play is a great way to explore kinks, act out fantasies, play with power dynamics, and more. Start with what you hope to get out of mind, then figure out the roles for everyone involved. Costumes are optional. Your role play can be as simple or as complex as you want to make it—and you can have recurring roles if you find something Really like.
4. Create your own challenge
Sometimes it’s the little adjustments to your regular sex life that can create the most adventure. Have fun with your partner by creating a challenge or game for yourself. Here are some ideas for inspiration:
- Every time you have sex, do it in a new place in your home.
- Try three new sex positions each week or each month.
- Hold off on sex but tease each other with sexts and flirting.
- Randomly pick something from your “yes, no, maybe” list to try each time you have sex.
- Turn a dry January into a wet January (sorry to say it) by having sex every day of the month.
5. Simulate a threesome with a high-tech sex toy
Finding a third party can be confusing and time-consuming, especially if you’ve never had a threesome before. If you’re looking for a creative and convenient way to ease yourself into three-way sex, consider having a digital threesome! Here’s how. One person can use an automatic stroker or a toy that simulates sucking or flicking the tongue, while their partner focuses on other parts of their body.
6. Be more comfortable on your back
There’s more to anal than cock-to-ass sex. You can use anal beads, butt plugs, or strap-on dildos, or receive a gentle massage around your perineum. And there’s also oral sex that involves the anus (aka rimming), which doesn’t have to involve any kind of penetration. Remember that STIs are still a risk when you do anal sex, but using condoms, internal condoms, gloves, and dental dams can help protect you. Shout out to dental dams for keeping poop germs out of your mouth too.
