For as long as I can remember, I’ve been told that “it’s overthinking.” While I’ve learned that’s not always a bad thing, it can be a difficult thing at times, especially since becoming a mother.
If you’re a mom who tends to overthink like me, you’ll probably agree that it’s just because you care too much, which is a good thing! But overthinking can be synonymous with worry, especially when it comes to our children. Here are eight things moms often worry about overthinking.
8 Things Overthinking Moms Worry About
You’re not alone if you tend to overthink and worry (a lot). Overthinking moms often worry about things like:
1. Something Is Happening To Our Children
It is a given. What parent doesn’t worry that something bad will happen to their children? For those who tend to overthink things, this fear of moms can easily get worse. We want to protect our children by all means but we know we can only do so much. And that’s a troubling pill to swallow.
2. Something Happens To Us
As an overthinking mom, the thought of something happening to me can be almost as scary as the thought of something happening to my babies. Although I don’t like to imagine the worst case scenario, I can’t imagine my little people not having me in their childhood. No one knows them like I do. The bond between a mother and daughter is incomparable, and it scares me to think that someone else is responsible for providing them with enough comfort, safety, and security.
3. We Are Enough
Motherhood is a 24/7 job, and there is no annual review to reassure us of our performance. At the end of most days, I can’t help but wake up worried about whether I’m doing enough for my kids. Do they get enough one-on-one time with me? Am I playing with them on the floor enough or offering enough nutritious food for the child? Am I teaching them enough? The concerns persist.
4. If We Are Enough
Besides wondering if I’m doing enough each day, I often question if I’m being enough of a mother to my babies. Am I patient enough? Compassionate enough? Understanding enough? You get the gist. When you’re an overthinking mom, you can do your best, day in and day out, and still wonder if you’re treating your children in a way that always makes them feel unconditionally loved, seen , and supported. If you’re like me, these worries are enough to send you spiraling.
Warning broken trip: I am enough. You are enough. Even in our imperfect moments, we are exactly the mothers our babies need!
5. How Other People Treat Our Children
I don’t want anyone to make my babies feel less love and respect than they deserve, but I know our world isn’t always peaches and sunshine. As an overthinking mom, I’m always worried that someone will say or do something that will hurt my kids, whether it’s intentional or not. Those little people have the purest hearts I’ve ever met, and the thought of someone else making snide comments, crossing boundaries, or treating them poorly is heartbreaking.
6. Our Relationships With Our Partners
Having two under two dramatically changed my relationship with my husband. Almost three years into being parents, we’re still figuring out how to weather the waves of change that inevitably come and go. No parent is perfect, or any relationship. Knowing that I am setting the standard for what my children expect from and from their future relationships brings a lot of pressure to get everything right.
7. The Choices We Make for Our Children’s Future
Raising babies and soaking in the young is one thing. Setting our children up for the best future possible is quite another. No matter how early we are in motherhood, overthinking mothers worry about everything from the get-go. For starters? How we choose to educate our children from pre-K to high school, what we should (and can or cannot) save for our children financially, and even where we live.
8. If Our Children Know How Much They Are Loved
Loving my son and daughter is the easiest thing I’ve ever done, but that doesn’t mean I don’t wonder if they know how much they are loved. Despite countless hugs and kisses, “I love you,” daily affirmations, and whenever possible, I want to give my children more. I just hope they know how loved, cherished, and treasured they are.
As an overthinking mama, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone. Being 100% responsible for raising someone else is a huge undertaking. Because of that, it’s only natural to worry from time to time. . . or sometimes, many. So, take it easy on yourself, mama. You are doing well.
